I feel like I could write pages and pages of the way people have
cared for us over the last few months. I do want to share briefly what has been
very helpful and encouraging to me.
The night we found out Naomi died, my in-laws came over with
dinner and just spent the evening with us. Jacob had to make arrangements with
school to ensure his classes were covered for the remainder of the school year
so it was nice to not be alone.
Our pastor and his wife and our small group leaders visited
us in the hospital the day I was scheduled to deliver her and prayed with us.
Both of our families spent the day with us as well. It was nice to not be
alone.
Immediately following Naomi’s death, I felt numb inside and
really just felt like all of this was a complete nightmare. It didn't seem
real. Making decisions was extremely hard; everything from the simple, everyday
decisions, like what to wear, what to eat, to having decide on burial and
funeral arrangements.
Our church created a meal list and for an entire week we had
all our meals provided. This was a HUGE blessing and very thoughtful. I
mentioned in an earlier post that eating was difficult, not physically but emotionally,
so I was very thankful for all those sweet friends that brought us food. We had
more than enough!
I had a few friends come over just to sit with me that first
week home. They listened while I talked or they just sat with me in silence. I wasn't looking to others to explain to me what happened and in fact, I didn't find it helpful when people would offer their explanations. None of us know why
this happened. Only God does. The way my friends and family have responded to
our loss is the way people should respond. There are no words to say and giving
a hug is really all that’s needed.
I have been told that people from all over the country have
been praying for us. Knowing this has been overwhelming and very humbling for
me! I really believe that the prayers of the Saints and the strength from God
is what has gotten me out of bed every. Single. Day. Thank you for praying!
We have received cards, text messages, and emails from
friends and family reminding us that they have not forgotten Naomi and are
praying. These sweet reminders are encouraging because this journey doesn't all
a sudden end after a certain amount of time. It’s a process. Grief is interesting
because it comes in waves. One moment I’m okay and then the next I’m reminded
of what should have been and I’m overwhelmed with emotion.
Everyone will grieve in different ways so what has been
helpful for me may not be helpful for someone else. The best thing you can do
for someone experiencing loss is to pray.
“Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in
prayer.” Romans 12:12
